BGR Thingy

I din want to blog till i fumbled upon a blogger's entry. I guess she is having some kind of stress with her relationship. She claims such scenario happened to her.


Scenario 1:
He tells u he is going to meet his friends late at night. you are not sure where they are going and sometimes he tells you its man's night (what a F%^king MCP reason). Do you:

1. Make a big fuss and quarrel about it cos its so late at night and you dunno where they are going? In the end, he stills goes out.. there is no win win situation here.

Or

2. Let him go and trust that wherever he say he was is true. In this way you feel better trusting him and he is more willing to tell you where he is.

Scenario 2:
Someone told you:" hey you never meet them?" It prob gave you a feeling that he went out with his friends without telling you. Do you:

1. Call him and F%&k him for cheating on you, demand for a reason y he went out without telling you and think he is such a BASTARD! What if he did not go out with his friends, who is gonna be responsible for souring the r/s?

Or

2. Think there is no need to ask. If he really did go out with his friends, he would have told me becos its not a big deal, and there is no need to cheat. I will trust him and wait for him to say something. You will realised that your trust is worth while when you know the truth is he did not go out, or such things did not happen.

Scenario 3:
You cannot find your bf.. he usually calls you after work but this time he didn't. You panicked and started calling him.. once, twice, no ones picks up.. you gave the worst scenario.. he is sleeping.. you called his place and his mom says" he's not in" Where did he go? you panicked.. Do you:

1. SMS him and F*&k him for not picking up your call." I dunno where the F&*k u are right now, with some girls or wat? for the first time you din call me after work and bloody hell you dun have to call me anymore!"

Or

2. No matter how fed up, choose to wait for explainations. As much as your heart is boiling,do not pick up calls and engage in a quarrel.. choose to calm oneself down and think of y you are angry over this. And whatever explanations he gave, even it sounds like a 3 yr old kid's excuse, choose to believe.. because ultimately what we want is a reason isn't it. Once we have it, y not trust them and don't try to dig other things out.. this will only make man more inferior of telling you the truth next time.

hmm... I am not sure what she thinks. From some of her entries, i can see she is in a state of dilemma and frustration. Well, in any cases, it boils down to trust and respect, though she mentioned it too. I guess for a relationship to work, its impt to be a responsible partner, not only being truthful but also appreciative.