婚姻

I was out with Alvin to help him choose the shoes he wanted to get for his wedding. After which, i head gym for my regular workout. A well spent day. Well, I got a new pair of shoes as well. hahah.. It has been in my mind long ago as my previous pair is like, oh no! Quite a good deal since i was given the latest copy of Man Folio. hahaha...

While i was on my way home, i tuned in to 1003. Wow! It really captured my attention from Suntec City till Home. And i am still listening to it now. Why? Well, there is a program by Kong Huai who is a counsellor talking abt marriage. Wow. Really nice.... He brought in a case study to talk about how to maintain marriage.

The case revolve a couple who got married after 4 years of dating. They met in university and it was like any other couple. Dating then naturally end up marrying. Things started to change after marriage. The hubby was once a 乖仔, never drink, never club, never smoke. However, after marriage, the husband was posted overseas and he picked up lots of bad habits.

That is not the end. A once loyal bf turns his back against his wife. He once believes in loyalty. Then it changed when he is out of the country for work. He said, the first time he controlled, then as time progresses he gave in. He had an affair behind his wife. Should we say this is common? What shocked me is, how could a once 乖仔 turned 坏仔？Or it was just all in him that he din unleashed till he stepped to the outside world? Or was it pretendious? I have said many times, if u r an idiot, say u r, dun pretend to be one. In his case, maybe he is not but more of being unleashing his innerself.

Well, his life probably revolves his gf and family in the past. Nothing much. Typical lor. When he went out of the country, it is like complete freedom! Finally he confessed to his wife abt his affairs. His poor wife has already suspected it. When he finally confess, she still find it hard to accept and cried for 3 days. She discussed with her friends and think thru the whole marriage. Would she want to terminate her marriage now? Deep inside, she said no. She loves her husband and decided to give him a chance. But 原谅不代表信任。How did they overcome this?

They went for a 14 wk counselling session. It really works. The husband was saying, life after marriage is not as romantic or the way you wanted. He believes in a strong foundation plus pre marriage counselling course. If the couple is not ready or get married for the sake of one, better not. Cos it will lead to harm. After the counselling session, the couple relation worked. They are now happily together and put the past behind them.

I feel happy for them. The only thing that disgust me is being pretendious or unleashing innerself? lol. I do agree that a pre marriage counselling session is important. I will probably do it too. Oh yes, i am impressed by the show lor. 1003 rocks! They are not only daring but produce quality shows. I tot they just blar rubbish sometimes. hahahhaha...

How do you feel abt the case then???

Southern Ridge Tour

Finally had sometime to blog about the Southern Ridge Tour. Quite an exciting trip. hahha.. Cos reminded me of the Vancouver Canopy Walk except warmer weather. I was telling jun if our weather could be lowered to 20 degree celsius. I would love my country even better. hahhaa.. No mist came out from our mouth but sweat and more sweat.

We started off with the Marang Trail just next to Harbourfront station, then all the way up to Mt Faber. Not bad wor. Jewel Box had undergone renovation. Then the brisk walk and the beautiful Henderson Wave. We chilled a while over there. The pple who live near to the wave are so fortunate! hahaha.. There was a couple taking their wedding photo there. Gosh, i wouldnt want to do tat. So hot and omg!

The hort park was really overhype! But it din interest me at the first place at all. hahha.. I passed by once when i was on an assignment. I think the place suits young kids. It will be good to bring students there to explore the importance of our flora and fauna. Not really suitable for adults unless you are a big fan of gardening. I really perspire a lot tat day. In the end, body that was exposed to sun got burnt. Came home to apply moisturizer. Thankfully, it recovered and no peeling.

We also went to Queenways after our adventure. Gosh. The place have changed. Most employees were Malay, Indian or Ah Beng in the past, know wat, it is now infested with Mainlanders!!! I really got a shocked! Even PRC teenagers are working there. I am wondering if they got the relevant permit to work. After all, they look young and it seems that they are here to study, not to work. I am sure the authorities will find out one day.

Its Ken bday today! There will be a celebration for him later. I will be rushing down to Dbl O to meet for this mad celebration. hahha.. I guess it should be fun cos .... cant reveal too much. Happy Bday my dear friend!!!

Its the Truth Gathering

Thanks to the BWW group! We finally had another session due to my bday. hahaha.. It was an informal one yet everyone turned up! Kin Jun named it as "Its the Truth Gathering!" Well, it was the usual gossiping, bitching and laughing session. We had quite a good time at Billy Bombers. The food was good. I love it! Thanks guys!

The 3 hour session encompass a wide range of topics, from work to relation to married life. hahaha.. Dinah share her life after marriage. hahhaa.. Interesting! The other 2 are still in search of their soul mates. Well, i guess dun rush to it. I always believe when fate is here, one will get attached very quickly. To a certain extend, one may even get married faster than anyone else.

The next meeting will be at Qiang place. Hopefully, the party will materialise. It will be the first bbq session we ever had since Qiang shifted to his new apartment abt 10 years ago?! hahha.. Let see how things go. Well, i am very happy to keep in touch with this group of friends. Really, more than 10 years of friendship and we are still so close. Lets hope for more 10 years to come!

SIN-KUL

This has been a very common route for me recently as its the cheapest and easiest way for me to chill out of SG. With the opening up of budget air, a flight to KL cost as low as $28. Imagine an air ticket that cost as much as a good meal in a restaurant or maybe even cheaper. Quite a good deal. hahhaa... Secondly, i have a good friend who is willing to put me up or meet me, so i treat it as a good getaway from SG.

I have considered many trips during my 4 day break. That includes HK, TPE, Bali and BKK. None of them offer cheap tickets lor. Shit. If there is one that offers good tix, i will just buy and fly there to chill. Treat it as a bday pressie for myself. hahhaa... Another fulfilling trip as i chill in a not bad hotel this time. I got a good deal. ahhahaha...

On my way back to SG this evening, damn i miss the KLIA Transit by 1 min. Damn. The next train? in 30 mins!! Prior to tat, i was shopping at Mid Valley. I need to take KTM to before i take the KLIA Transit. The wait for KTM is also long. hahhaa... I guess i waited for a 20 min or something. Total Waiting Time : 50mins!

If the train system frequency could improved, i guess KL is an easy place to navigate and move ard. lol. Nonetheless, i shopped more at Mid Valley this time. Quite a huge shopping centre. I remembered i went there once with Ed and gang few years ago. However, i have no memories of the place except a huge mall.

This time, i had a good look. I even went to the neighbouring shopping centre The Secret. ahhaha... Its a more up market mall with many branded stores. I bought a couple of tank tops. hahah.. Oh yes, i got myself a new pair of goggles too. lol! I need to change a new pair as the old one is almost gone. Quite a good trip afterall. Not forgetting some nice food too. hahha

I realise KFC in Malaysia really taste better than SG. I heard from a friend ours are frozen chicken, while our neighbour uses fresh chicken. Of cos the teast is different! So i told myself to eat KFC before i got home. :P yep! I ate! lol... I had dinner at KLIA before i boarded the plane. hahaha... One more day before work starts again. Back to reality! hahhaha

Man vs Woman

I saw something in a forum that struck me a while. It is from a 17 year old Singaporean girl.

"I dun want to be like my mum with only 1 man in her entire life but neither do i want half of the men attending my wedding are men which i have slept with before."

I am not sure if i should be shocked or speechless. I kept thinking about wat this ger said. Have our value changed or something is wrong with our current system? One thing i know for sure, girls today are not as simple as before. Despite parents or schools teaching them to protect themselves, many in fact are not. They are happily sleeping ard. I heard many stories. Some were in fact shocking. hahhaa.. Well, getting used to it as i grow older.

Then a gay replied that kept me laughing too. Hey, i am not prejudiced against them ok. I just find it interesting from their point of view.

"I dun want my BF to be a newbie from the circle that just want to play and have fun neither do i want half the guest attending my birthday party are guys my BF have slept with before"

I would say its normal for them to do this. Anyway, guys are more physical. Unlike gers who is really more emotional. However, time have changed. Gers are no longer like wat they were in the past. They want to have their fair share of fun too. Fine enough, afterall, this is a fair n square society. Everyone deserves to pursue what they like. As long as it is not illegal, it should be fine.

What about others? I wonder how they view these comments. Shocking or used to it? Ha... Think about it...

Celebration

Hahahah... The first day into 30th anniversary!! It was really fun yesterday. Received many well wishes from all my dear friends. They are the best!!! I love them. hahaha... The celebration kicks in from evening. I went out with jun to Clarke Quay before meeting Leon and Ken. Thanks to Leon who bought me 2 pressies. That was nice of him...

Then we met Kenneth before we proceed to our dinner place. Never tried MOF before. Quite a nice dinner. I think more importantly is the pple who you hang out with. I suddenly feel so xing fu to have them ard. The dessert was really nice. It is 吃在口里 甜在心里 la... hahahha.. Peaceful yet joyous occasion.

Time to head to Dbl O when Eric joined in. Really lor, this good friend of mine 没话讲。Ask him to come, he really came and gave me face. Unlike some who disappoint me a lot. Nonetheless, i m still happy to see who are really close to me. It has proven it. By midnight, i was quite high! Drank quite a bit le.. hahaha...

Dj wished me Happy Bday! Thanks to all the sunshine pple from Dbl O. I appreciate tat. Then i started receiving calls n msges. Some even came from overseas. I just felt, wow, at tat moment i was really touch! My first mins into 30th anniversary and friends from everywhere started pouring in nice msges. hahahha...

Back to reality, i am going to work soon. hahhaa.. Cant believe tat i am working on this very first day of my 30th Anniversary. Hope everything will be smooth for the year! Happy Bday to everyone who share the same day with me!