婚姻

I was out with Alvin to help him choose the shoes he wanted to get for his wedding. After which, i head gym for my regular workout. A well spent day. Well, I got a new pair of shoes as well. hahah.. It has been in my mind long ago as my previous pair is like, oh no! Quite a good deal since i was given the latest copy of Man Folio. hahaha...

While i was on my way home, i tuned in to 1003. Wow! It really captured my attention from Suntec City till Home. And i am still listening to it now. Why? Well, there is a program by Kong Huai who is a counsellor talking abt marriage. Wow. Really nice.... He brought in a case study to talk about how to maintain marriage.

The case revolve a couple who got married after 4 years of dating. They met in university and it was like any other couple. Dating then naturally end up marrying. Things started to change after marriage. The hubby was once a 乖仔, never drink, never club, never smoke. However, after marriage, the husband was posted overseas and he picked up lots of bad habits.

That is not the end. A once loyal bf turns his back against his wife. He once believes in loyalty. Then it changed when he is out of the country for work. He said, the first time he controlled, then as time progresses he gave in. He had an affair behind his wife. Should we say this is common? What shocked me is, how could a once 乖仔 turned 坏仔？Or it was just all in him that he din unleashed till he stepped to the outside world? Or was it pretendious? I have said many times, if u r an idiot, say u r, dun pretend to be one. In his case, maybe he is not but more of being unleashing his innerself.

Well, his life probably revolves his gf and family in the past. Nothing much. Typical lor. When he went out of the country, it is like complete freedom! Finally he confessed to his wife abt his affairs. His poor wife has already suspected it. When he finally confess, she still find it hard to accept and cried for 3 days. She discussed with her friends and think thru the whole marriage. Would she want to terminate her marriage now? Deep inside, she said no. She loves her husband and decided to give him a chance. But 原谅不代表信任。How did they overcome this?

They went for a 14 wk counselling session. It really works. The husband was saying, life after marriage is not as romantic or the way you wanted. He believes in a strong foundation plus pre marriage counselling course. If the couple is not ready or get married for the sake of one, better not. Cos it will lead to harm. After the counselling session, the couple relation worked. They are now happily together and put the past behind them.

I feel happy for them. The only thing that disgust me is being pretendious or unleashing innerself? lol. I do agree that a pre marriage counselling session is important. I will probably do it too. Oh yes, i am impressed by the show lor. 1003 rocks! They are not only daring but produce quality shows. I tot they just blar rubbish sometimes. hahahhaha...

How do you feel abt the case then???